Sex is everything– Stella Damasus

As at present, Stella Damasus’ marital status is not really clear. While there have have been claims that she is now married to Daniel Ademinokan, it has not yet been confirmed beyond doubt.
What is clear however is that she has been accused of being a husband snatcher who stole her colleague’s husband, thereby leading to the crash of the colleague’s marriage.

What is also clear is that she was married to Jaiye Aboderin, and the marriage was successful, but sadly, Jaiye died. It might therefore be based on her known successful marriage that she has deemed it fit to advice married ladies on how to keep their husbands. And according to her, the realistic way to do so is to keep the husbands satisfied sexually. Without mincing words, she reached out to married women through the words below.

"This is for the married women. Please this is not targeted at single girls. "Now we know that the one thing men cannot live without apart from money is sex. I do not understand therefore why women, especially Africans, do not talk about sex when we know that it is the one thing we do regularly with so much pleasure.

"Anyway our men love sex to the max and we know that for a fact. So how come when we are dati n g them we are so willing to give them what they want even though we know it is wrong. The first few years of marriage is filled with sex almost five times a day in different parts of the house and at odd hours, but after the few years we start to back down, we start to make excuses, we start to see it as a chore and then we let them know that we are really not interested in them physically.

"I know that most of you will say I have kids who wear me out, I have work that drains me, I got older, my sex drive has gone under, I have a headache, to the point that the man will need to get a visa at your embassy to visit his favourite place in the world.

"When you do this to him, how do you expect him to come home everyday to look at your tired, grumpy and unfriendly face? "How would you expect him to come home to you complaining about the plumber, your child that was being rude, and your boss that gave you a hard time? "At that point he wants you to take him to that special place were the sky is so wonderful and turn his brain around to the point that all you say will sound like sweet music to his ears.

"These men are human beings who go through their own challenges, half of which you don’t even know because they are trying to save you from all the stress. "What annoys me the most is when we women start to complain and nag about the men not having time for us, and how they no longer find us attractive anymore and that’s where the suspicion starts. That’s when the saying comes that if he is not getting it from me, someone else must be giving it to him. "I don’t encourage cheating at all.

In fact it goes against what the Bible teaches no matter what. I will not also judge anyone who has been caught in a web he is not proud of for one reason or the other. I believe that if we are truly sorry for our sins and we go to God with the determination not to sin again, He is merciful and will forgive us. "In all of this I know that all men are not beasts, neither are they evil because we married them. I also know that men do not get married and carry it at the back of their minds that they must cheat.

"That’s not how it works please. There are things that we do that trigger things in their brains and these things drive them to do things that they really would not have done.

"Most of us believe it when they say men don’t think with their brains but they think with their penis. I beg to differ because they know what they are doing and I don’t see how the penis can have a brain that will control the whole body. There is always something that sparks off in the brain that sends the signal to the penis. "You may or may not agree with me but this is what I choose to believe.

Most men we married are not so evil and dubious, some may be cowards but cast your mind back to the kind of man you chose to marry and see if there were traces of that character or not."